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Awareness, awakening to the reality of our own greatness.

Shed the false modesty; no energy wasted on arrogance or appearance. Simply opening our eyes to who we really are. Simple. Not always easy, but it’s right there. No excuses. There will never be the “right” time. Putting others first will not help us to help them.

No need to wait for permission – no one can give it to us. Permission is only our power we give away.

The windows and doors are wide open.

Eiffel in the Window by Jean Michel Berts

We are taught that to be ourselves and walk our road is not safe. What is safe is to agree to the narrow definition of who we are.

At four or five, the top to the box is opened for us. We resist. It is not the door to freedom. By eight, we have climbed in and may even have pulled the top down ourselves. For that we may have received approval. Now we are no longer safe and we know it. Those who love us told us it is what is safe.

Our first lesson that takes our bodies from us and us from our bodies. Sensation tells us that our authenticity is safe. Our bodies also tells us that the box is not. But they love us… Who better to convince us that what our bodies tell us is wrong…

Conditioning and familiar patterns have us in a hole. The shovel that is a match to those patterns will only dig us in more deeply.

Grab the shovel that does not feel familiar to our hands but with which our hearts soars!

This is our gift to the world; not playing small, not staying in our place, not waiting so someone is “ok” with it.

We know it, we feel it, and we see the repercussions of what we’re doing.

Do we   s e e?

Stop hiding behind others. it isn’t what is ‘best’ for them. It’s what’s familiar for us. The “devil” we know. And the road to hell… It helps to keep from truly moving forward. “I have others to think of before I can take care of myself.” We know this is not truth. There is no honor in losing true self. It only teaches those we love to do the same. We lead them into the same hell. Why do we do that?

That box from childhood is gone, but we act as if it’s still in tact. Our electric fence. The shock collar is gone and there is no electric fence.

Photo by Jean Michele Berts

The Gift of Intimacy

Present Glow in BlueI cannot know another until I know myself – intimately.

Sexually? Sure. That’s a great start. And plenty of practice too! Practice stimulates hormonal levels and makes body sensation more accessible. The key is to pay more attention to the details of sensation with each practice.

Another way is to spend a few seconds several times a day acknowledging how your body feels. After all, intimacy is being in relationship with the details of whatever is being observed.

How about slowing down? Not a popular idea but very important.

In terms of “another”  mentioned above, the greater my ability to notice my own body communication the more sensitive I am likely to be to the body of others. An intimate partner, yes, but also any other I choose to notice.

Paying attention. Noticing. Mindfulness. Cognizance. Consciousness. Observation. Knowledge. Awareness.

Awareness is a gift.

Awareness is a gift only we can give ourselves.

Those around me can remind me and suggest that I pay attention. I will only benefit if  I practice body mindfulness. I also have to do this mindfulness thing for myself – no one else can do it for me (also known as I take responsibility for my well-being).

In it’s richest form, awareness is a practice. Without awareness there is little or no healing.

What if we practiced Nia (or yoga) while we watch a tennis match?

Sounds kind of ridiculous, doesn’t it?

So why do we run on a treadmill or workout on an elliptical while watching tv?

Here comes the anarchist in me:

Get rid of all the tvs in health and fitness facilities.

What a wonderful holiday gift.

It’s long past time to re-think the way we treat our bodies. Watching tv while moving amounts to negligence.

How about this one:

Heightened awareness will make your sex life better.

Barring an event bigger than you, heightened awareness can help you avoid chronic pain and serious injuries.

What better gift could you ask for?