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Illusion

Awareness, awakening to the reality of our own greatness.

Shed the false modesty; no energy wasted on arrogance or appearance. Simply opening our eyes to who we really are. Simple. Not always easy, but it’s right there. No excuses. There will never be the “right” time. Putting others first will not help us to help them.

No need to wait for permission – no one can give it to us. Permission is only our power we give away.

The windows and doors are wide open.

Eiffel in the Window by Jean Michel Berts

We are taught that to be ourselves and walk our road is not safe. What is safe is to agree to the narrow definition of who we are.

At four or five, the top to the box is opened for us. We resist. It is not the door to freedom. By eight, we have climbed in and may even have pulled the top down ourselves. For that we may have received approval. Now we are no longer safe and we know it. Those who love us told us it is what is safe.

Our first lesson that takes our bodies from us and us from our bodies. Sensation tells us that our authenticity is safe. Our bodies also tells us that the box is not. But they love us… Who better to convince us that what our bodies tell us is wrong…

Conditioning and familiar patterns have us in a hole. The shovel that is a match to those patterns will only dig us in more deeply.

Grab the shovel that does not feel familiar to our hands but with which our hearts soars!

This is our gift to the world; not playing small, not staying in our place, not waiting so someone is “ok” with it.

We know it, we feel it, and we see the repercussions of what we’re doing.

Do we   s e e?

Stop hiding behind others. it isn’t what is ‘best’ for them. It’s what’s familiar for us. The “devil” we know. And the road to hell… It helps to keep from truly moving forward. “I have others to think of before I can take care of myself.” We know this is not truth. There is no honor in losing true self. It only teaches those we love to do the same. We lead them into the same hell. Why do we do that?

That box from childhood is gone, but we act as if it’s still in tact. Our electric fence. The shock collar is gone and there is no electric fence.

Photo by Jean Michele Berts

Re-Define Aging? Change Your Life? R.E.S.P.E.C.T. every seond lived in your Body.

Little Dancer

A wise guy I know has said to me on several occasions a parent doesn’t deserve respect simply because they are parents, that was their choice. It’s what they have done since then that counts.

I wasn’t raised with that understanding of the relationship between parents and children and the first time I heard it, I had to choke back a knee-jerk argument. Over the years I’ve thought about it a lot and I’ve come to agree.

This morning I looked at that statement on a very broad scale, something struck me and I thought I’d share this ongoing lesson I’m uncovering:

We’re surprised, disappointed, frustrated and alarmed with the lack of respect that we, as a culture have for our elders.

We’re surprised, disappointed, frustrated and alarmed with the lack of respect that we, as a culture have for our children.

Curiously, we are also surprised, disappointed, frustrated and alarmed with the lack of respect that we, as a culture have for the human body we live in.

Anybody see a common denominator here?

How about productivity?

If you can’t make money, what good are you – where is your usefulness?

If it requires sacrificing health, comfort and pleasure of your body – too bad – do it anyway. You can rest and get healthy when you retire. Right?

We don’t actually have a respect for human life. We have a respect for human usefulness; human productivity.

What are the messages? Forever be  25. It’s all down hill from there. And it was all up hill to get there.

Seriously? That’s it? We get nearly 100 years and all we want to keep is a year of it?

Ok, so it’s my soapbox for the week. What’s this got to do with Awareness? Sensation? Movement?

Everything.

Get into your body and live in it, moment by moment.

It is not sacrifice that makes us virtuous. Sacrifice only makes us resentful, bitter and unwell.

It is authentic generosity that makes us “virtuous”, joyful and well.

Wish for nothing else but this very moment. Everything else is smoke.

If there is pain in this moment, feel it, it won’t last long. Then do something to change it.

Don’t ever push emotions away. They are guides. They are a communication. They are teachers. They teach us about ourselves. You don’t have to act on them (or perhaps that is what you need to do), but shutting them out, suppressing your ability to feel them and learn from them is unwise.

There are no negative or positive emotions!

(Was the exclamation point overkill???)

We are not possessed by emotions, they exist for our use – to tell us about ourselves.

If you don’t like the way you’re feeling, give it about 7 minutes (that means not dwelling, not talking to yourself about how bad you feel and how angry you are or how hurt you are) and you’ll be feeling something else.

Be who, what and where you are. Don’t pretend. Except as a result of chemical imbalance, we are not anything all the time.

We are not angry all the time.

We are not happy all the time.

We are not grateful all the time.

We are not insecure all the time.

Feel it, then let it pass. Hanging onto it longer than it is intended to last (approximately 7 minutes!) turns something authentic and true into potential misery; into something forced and fake.

Change your life sound like too big a task? Then change your moment. How difficult is it to change the moment?

What sensation do you feel right now in your body? Is it pleasure? If not, do something different until it comes closer to pleasure.

Being Present in it may be all there is to changing your moment – that change your life.

Don’t let it get away.

Living in Sensuality – Be the Movement

FreeDance in White Dress

This morning I took a class at the Y called Tums, Legs & Buns. The class was taught by Kathy Ross, a highly skilled and gifted teacher. Kathy blends yoga and Pilates with conventional fitness and has always delivered an effective class. It’s been a while since I’ve taken such a class and there was a point or two during the legwork where I couldn’t think of anything except the movement. I think I can safety say that I was completely immersed in the movements! I was in the movement moment!

I doubt I was the only one.

After I got home, I still had little sensation reminders of the class.

I watched Out of Focus, a documentary about Ohad Naharin and his creation GAGA, while I ate lunch. GAGA is an improvisational practice and what I’ve been able to pick up has greatly influenced my dance – and my body. A little later I went through my freedance/improv practice, inviting some of Naharin’s comments to settle in. “Be cool,” he suggests to a repertory group of dancers he’s working with. “Enjoy your body going into the movement.”

“Enjoy your body going into the movement.”

My body relaxes just saying it to myself.

Tense, self-conscious, perfection or technique-driven movement didn’t work for the Tin Man and it doesn’t work for us either.

Last Friday morning (2am or so) I woke up unable to roll onto my right side. My shoulder was too uncomfortable. When I got up for the day, I discovered that the range of motion in my shoulder was compromised, most noticeably by pain. By Sunday I had almost zero internal and external rotation and little extension. I have no idea what I did to piss off my shoulder. I went on to teach 2 classes in a sling and planned to not only visit my favorite Feldenkrais practitioner, Julie Francis, but to also consult an sports medicine specialist. For 2 days I protected my shoulder, adjusting my normal body flow to accommodate my new restrictions. Ice. Heat. Ibuprophen. Arnica oil. No relief.

As I was getting into the shower after class, Monday I noticed just how hard I had been holding myself. Getting in and out of shirts and exercise tops was practically a tear-jerker. I took a breath and drew the exhale throughout my body, with particular attention to releasing in my shoulder. Immediately it hung more comfortably. Another couple of breaths and conscious releasing exhales and the shirt came off with less pain. I taught Tuesdays class without the sling, relinquishing level 3 workout intensity for level 3 consciousness. By Wednesday morning I was again able to hook my bra like a big girl!

I still don’t know what I did, but the two experiences brought me around to considering how easy it is to be aware of what is challenging. Often our activity can be so difficult that we cannot be anywhere else. If we’re injured in such a situation, we’ll probably remember what we did, to tell the doctor. It’s the rest of the time that I’m getting to.

How many times have you heard someone tell you, in embarrassment, that they hurt their back getting out of the tub, or getting out of the car? How about getting out of bed? These are the movements we go through without thinking. These actions are a means to an end, they’re not the main event. They’re so not the main event that most of the time we don’t have any memory of doing them – mmm, how did I get here?

I watched as Naharin’s advice to the dancers changed their movements from technical and detached to expressive and connected.

Be in the movement,” applies to everyone. Hindsight only helps in the case of accidents involving things like planes, trains and automobiles. If we weren’t paying attention otherwise, we won’t have anything to reference in hindsight.

Credits: Out of Focus is a Heymann Brothers Production and is available for $35 through http://www.heymannbrothers.com

Awareness of Music and Creativity

Colored Bubbles

I’m taking an online creative writing course, Courting the Muse, offered by Cassaundra W. Bennett. One of my writing assignments suggested that I listened to music with which I am unfamiliar. I listened to a musical arrangement that was a bit different from my usual listening choices.

I listened to an a capella piece performed by Anna Kendrick using plastic cups as “accompaniment. At first listen, I didn’t care about the cups. Anna has a good voice and I was totally engaged by the lyrics.

I’ve got my ticket for the long way ‘round
The one with the prettiest of views
It’s got mountains, it’s got rivers, it’s got sights to give you shivers
But it sure would be prettier with you

I like the tone of her request for this person she’s singing to join her. She doesn’t beg; there’s no angst or anger in her voice. The person she’s singing to means something to her but she’s strong enough in herself to go without him.

Her offer is almost off-the-cuff. Or perhaps simply relaxed. Maturity and a bit of humor,  “you’re gonna miss me when I’m gone, you’re gonna miss me by my hair, you’re gonna miss me everywhere, oh, you’re gonna miss me when I’m gone.”

I hear hope with enough experience to know that she may not get what she wants this time.

After a few listens, the cups relinquish their side. She is someone who has just enough to get by. She doesn’t need any more; doesn’t want any more. She’s playing cups. Would she play something else if she could?

Letting go. She’ll let him go. If I shift how I listen, I can hear a mournful tone. She knows she’s already lost him, but she has to ask anyway. She is brave enough to ask and courageous enough to hear the answer. She’s willing to be vulnerable; strong enough to be vulnerable. She is strong enough to resist following another.

How vulnerable am I willing to be? Am I strong enough to be as vulnerable as I am?

I got my ticket for the long way ‘round
Two bottle ‘a whiskey for the way
And I sure would like some sweet company
And I’m leaving tomorrow, wha-do-ya say?

I’ve got my ticket for the long way ‘round
The one with the prettiest of views
It’s got mountains, it’s got rivers, it’s got sights to give you shivers
But it sure would be prettier with you

^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

Scene from the movie Pitch Perfect, Anna Kendrick – http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jcl_FkA0qJA

Entire song; song only – http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n06IejXZZFs

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Don’t Dooooo Iiiiiiiiiit!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Stretching Leopard

Contrary to what Penny, Sheldon and Leonard’s friend on the Big Bang Theory believes

it is nooooot good to stretch before you run!

Or dance. Or walk. Or play basketball. Or play golf. You get the idea.

Noooooooooooooooooooooooo!!!!!!!!!!!!

Unless you’ve already been dancing!

I’m in an experiment kind of mood, so go grab a rubber band and throw it in the freezer. Sometime next week (or next year) you can retrieve it and stretch it out.

Better yet (and more immediate) go digging through stuff you’re saving for your kids, or for scrapbooking later or the sales information in your glove compartment – that’s been held together by a rubber band for longer than you’ve had that Duran Duran t-shirt. Give that little guy a stretch.

Tearing or outright popping and breaking will probably be the result.

Your muscles are not entirely unlike these rubber bands.

Oh, yea, and another reminder that stretching cold muscles is not the best idea – it’s uncomfortable and your muscles don’t want to stretch. They don’t. They’re telling you they don’t.

Stretching Hamster

What’s really cool is that they actually have a built-in defense mechanism to prevent tearing. Very simply what happens when you attempt to lengthen cold muscles is that when your muscles get to the breaking (or tearing) point, they shorten – instead of lengthen. The result is that your stretching gains you little to no ground and you could injure yourself.

Even if you’re doing your physical therapy flexibility exercises at home it’s vital to warm up before you stretch. Physical therapists will suggest that you use a heating pad on a small area (unless you’ve got one of those heavy canvas ‘blankets’ that heat up!) or that you take a hot shower to increase your circulation of blood to the area being stretched.

Now that you have warmed up your body, here’s another note about stretching:

Notice where you are feeling that stretch. You should be feeling it in the muscles belly – the middle of the muscle. If you feel the stretch in a joint, stop immediately. If the sensation goes away immediately, slowly go back into your stretch. Listen for the sensation of gentle pull in the middle of the muscle you are stretching.

Stretching Tiger

In yoga classes it looks as if we are stretching before we are warm. The first several sets of Sun Salutations are to be done gently with the desired affect being a gradual increase of body temperature and blood circulation so that when your body is ready you will be ready to get the most from your practice.

Waaaaaaaaaaaaarrrrrrrrrmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm.

Move. Adapt. Heal.

Keep moving like a kid long after you aren’t a kid anymore!

Fire in the Soul Fire and Moon

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Movement Alchemy describes the transformation through movement that is accessible to every body.  Transformation that honors every body in its uniqueness and life history. Movement Alchemy is the culmination of the work I’ve done; the different disciplines of movement I’ve delved into, the variety of injuries I’ve befriended as well as the various methods of healing I’ve explored.

Awareness is the key to everything.

The Gift of Intimacy

Present Glow in BlueI cannot know another until I know myself – intimately.

Sexually? Sure. That’s a great start. And plenty of practice too! Practice stimulates hormonal levels and makes body sensation more accessible. The key is to pay more attention to the details of sensation with each practice.

Another way is to spend a few seconds several times a day acknowledging how your body feels. After all, intimacy is being in relationship with the details of whatever is being observed.

How about slowing down? Not a popular idea but very important.

In terms of “another”  mentioned above, the greater my ability to notice my own body communication the more sensitive I am likely to be to the body of others. An intimate partner, yes, but also any other I choose to notice.

Paying attention. Noticing. Mindfulness. Cognizance. Consciousness. Observation. Knowledge. Awareness.

Awareness is a gift.

Awareness is a gift only we can give ourselves.

Those around me can remind me and suggest that I pay attention. I will only benefit if  I practice body mindfulness. I also have to do this mindfulness thing for myself – no one else can do it for me (also known as I take responsibility for my well-being).

In it’s richest form, awareness is a practice. Without awareness there is little or no healing.

What if we practiced Nia (or yoga) while we watch a tennis match?

Sounds kind of ridiculous, doesn’t it?

So why do we run on a treadmill or workout on an elliptical while watching tv?

Here comes the anarchist in me:

Get rid of all the tvs in health and fitness facilities.

What a wonderful holiday gift.

It’s long past time to re-think the way we treat our bodies. Watching tv while moving amounts to negligence.

How about this one:

Heightened awareness will make your sex life better.

Barring an event bigger than you, heightened awareness can help you avoid chronic pain and serious injuries.

What better gift could you ask for?

The Secret of Brilliant Movement – Mini Sensation Meditation

Let’s make this interactive:

This might be a conversation you open and hold with your body only, or perhaps you’d like to share your discoveries with the rest of us.

Diving into Sensation. Or tip toeing. Or crashing. Or stomping. Or sinking. Or slipping in.

Take a moment and awaken your Body Awareness. Three full, easy breaths.  Bring your attention to a body part and notice how it feels. Choose a sensation word and said it softly out loud. The door is open…

How do you define “brilliant” movement?

What is the Sensation of brilliant movement?

Would you describe your movements every moment as brilliant ?

Let’s not think of this as an all-or-nothing proposition, so… where and when are you moving brilliantly?

Do you sense brilliance in your entire body or does a particular body part or area come to mind?

When you receive the answer, stay with it. See in your mind’s eye and feel your brilliant movement as an immediate and intimate experience. In the intimacy is the details.

Is it when you’re dancing with your friends? Are you moving brilliantly when you’re running? When you’re cooking?

What is it you do, then, that isn’t brilliant?

Why isn’t it brilliant?

Who told you it wasn’t brilliant?

Not brilliant compared to what?

Revisit your brilliant movement. Take time to consider the questions and the answers your body gives you. Spend as much time in any one as you like. As with any of my meditation suggestions, you can explore the meditation in it’s entirety or you can take it apart. Play with one question in the car, stopped in traffic. Play with a question while you’re standing in line and another at the computer, in front of the tv or anywhere to practice and heighten body awareness.

Remaining connected to the sensation of brilliant movement in your body, invite your mind to explore these mental toys:

What about using the words brilliant and energetic interchangeably?

Where does your sensation go?

Now we’ll use brilliant interchangeably with difficult.

Where does your mind go? What sensation or sensations do you notice?

How about brilliant and specific?

How are specific and difficult movements connected to brilliant movement? Are they?

Let’s go to brilliant and painful.

Are any of your brilliant movements painful? Yes? Why? Must the movements result in pain to be brilliant?

What if we use the words brilliant and functional interchangeably?

Will you go back and answer any of the above questions differently? Is there a change in your body sensation?

How about we use the words brilliant and pleasurable interchangeably?

What changes now? Is there a difference between functional movement and pleasurable movement? Sensation?

Now let’s make easy and brilliant interchangeable.

What’s the change? Does the change occur in your mind as shifts of perspective? Is the change wholly physical?

A bit of both?

Let’s bring the sensation and concept of satisfaction into the equation. Brilliant and satisfying?

When and where is your movement brilliant and satisfying?

Ok, adding  another element into the mix.

For brilliance, it must also be satisfying and painful. To be satisfying, it must be brilliant and painful. To be painful, it must also be brilliant and satisfying? Does this work? Is it possible? Where does it breakdown? Do you know this sensation or these sensations in your body?

Are all of these possible? Some? None?

When we make brilliant interchangeable with authentic, what happens?

Brilliant with healthy?

How easily can you equate your body’s natural and unfettered movement with brilliance?

Where does your mind go when you consider brilliance in the organic nature that is your very personal movement style?

Are there rules to being brilliant? Is there a charge for brilliant movement? A piper to pay?

Is brilliant movement expensive?

Is there a sacrifice?

Or is brilliance freedom?

The “Secret” is within you.

Art by Kalidou Kasse

The Sensation of Conflict

Sit Still.

Exercise – Move more.

The human back is it’s most vulnerable in the sitting position.

Still your body.

Still your mind.

Monkey mind. Mind chatter. Focus issues.

It hurts, be still. It hurts more, be still longer. It still hurts, see a doctor. I have pills. Now I can sit with less pain as long as I take the pills.

Control your emotions (which means exactly what? Suppress? Repress? See a therapist?). Manage your energy (not that I’m going to communicate to you how to do this. Again, therapist?). Why are your shoulder blades so tight?  Why is your neck always stiff? The two commands in this sentence remind me of telling a child to ‘be careful’. What the hell does that mean anyway? Stifled. Muted. Shut down. Restless. Frustrated. Conflict.

The above reminds me of television in which delicious rich ice cream is advertised, followed by an ad for a weight loss program. I have to be able to eat ice cream and still be thin. Guilt. Shame. Isolation. Conflict.

I keep reading that we need to learn to be in stillness. First of all, clarity is needed here. In terms of movement, we are still far, far too often. Stillness of the mind is what is needed. In an interview included in the video Inner Wave, Gabrielle Roth suggested that in order to still the  mind, we must move the body.

It’s not as if we’re not in a shortage of thinkers. We tend to think too much. Thinking about the meaning of life (does there really have to be a meaning?!) rather than living it. Thinking about my purpose, rather than allowing myself be drawn by what is important to me and what I’m good at. What will the neighbors think? Thinking about the “right time” until there is no more time at all. Thinking about what he meant by that or thinking about how she feels about this rather than asking them and living closer to truth than an imaginary world. I’m not even going to step into a debate about what is truly important to be thinking about as opposed to dangers of self-absorption.

It looks as though we have created “exercise” in order to counteract the results of “sit still”. And it’s fun too, right? For some of us, it is. For others, they hate it so much they take the consequences of being sedentary. Interestingly, as children we all play (with few exceptions) and we don’t often complain about it.

It’s when we stop playing that our bodies and minds become less flexible. I’m not talking about our adult redefinition of play – adult version of play, which, for the most part speeds up the deterioration of the human self. I’m talking about silly games, games that make us laugh so hard that we risk needing a change of clothes. Chases that take us nowhere but leave us deliciously exhausted for about 5 seconds. Imaginary beings that do exactly what we want them to in worlds that only exist in play. Getting lost in the story. Thoroughly engrossed in the search or the ‘perfect’ hiding place.

For no other reason than it’s fun.

When children play they fall down from time to time, skin knees and elbows and occasionally break bones usually as they’re learning. It’s not until adults step in and begin registering them for formal sports program that the path is altered. It’s not until adults step in and start treating them like little adults. Left to themselves, children will run and play until their bodies are tired. Then they stop, drink out of the garden hose or grab a snack from the cupboard and go back outside. If it’s been a particularly tough play day, they may sit down and watch some tv or play a video game. Then, back to play. It’s when we, the adults tell them to keep playing;  they can rest when the game is over, or they can wait to have a drink until half time or go to the bathroom until whenever it’s convenient, that we teach them how to disconnect from their bodies. The process of disconnection starts younger and younger. Conflict.

Disconnection starts early, so that when they’re 20 they’re willing to pull all-nighters in school. So that in the 30s and 40s they are willing to forsake rest, healthy nutrition, mental and emotional wellness as well as their families for the job.

Even at this point, though, the body will still express the sense of dis-ease that registers as stress. I’m not happy. I hate my job. I can’t wait for the weekend and even though no two Mondays are ever the same, I dread them all as I drag myself back to work; the thing that sucks the joy out of my life and and strangles my soul. I’d much rather be doing something else, something more fun, but… Conflict.

Our bodies register the lack of ease, or flow in our lives. We would rather be doing something “fun”; something that feeds the soul rather than depletes it. So why don’t we?

Don’t even say ‘to pay the bills’. Careers aren’t built to pay the bills. Jobs that don’t interfere with a life in balance are what pay the bills, right? C’mon, be more creative.

What if we were all having fun? What if we all chose to make a living at what makes us happy most of the time (nothing’s perfect). What would happen?

Our medical visits might decline which means our medical bills might decline.

We might not have to live with the gut-wrenching guilt of hating what supposedly sustains us while having no time for family or self. Possibly our need for antacids might decrease. Our need for over the counter pain relievers might decrease.

We know the sensation of conflict. We know it so well that almost everyone I meet will either admit to being extremely uncomfortable with conflict or their behavior shows me that they can’t manage conflict at all.

Is it possible to live without conflict? As ‘good’ as that may sound, it may create imbalance, however, is it possible to live without so much deep, unresolvable conflict? Better? A little conflict creates growth – we’re not all perfect; our every word a choice of genius, a little calling out keeps us honest and our perspective a bit more clear.

What are we going to do about it?

How do we create balance?

What is it worth?