What’s the Best Kept Secret to a Balanced Life?
Part 1: Movement.
The thing about moving is that you have to keep doing it to be able to keep doing it. Do you still do the things you did when you were 12? Why not? Because you’re older? Aging is not a pathology, but we’ve made it into one.
When I say ‘movement’, I’m not talking about a walk around the block while you hold a conversation so you don’t have to think about what you’re doing. I’m also not talking about creating movement at so high a level that all you can think about is not dropping to the floor in exhaustion.
My dad is 87 and moves like he’s 30. It’s no accident but he didn’t fully realize the value of what he has been consciously doing throughout most of his life. I have a friend who is close to 90 and she gets up and down from the floor all the time with as much (or more ease) than her children!
So what does that mean?
It means cultivating a fully connected relationship with your body. A relationship the likes of which you may not have had before. And here’s where the second part comes in: Awareness.
Part 2: Awareness – paying attention.
When I suggest ‘cultivating a fully connected relationship with your body,” I’m not talking about a relationship in which you relate to your body through your thoughts and ideas about your body. I’m talking about a relationship with your body through your body.
This means flat out paying attention all the time. This means being present to yourself as body and others all the time.
Being Present means that you bring all of you every time. It is a practice.
Being Present is a way of taking care of yourself and only when you are taking care of yourself can you truly take care of others or your obligations.
Not taking care of yourself or sacrificing your well-being “for others” is not noble, interesting, attractive, medal-worthy or brave. It’s self-defeating, demoralizing, manipulative and it hurts everyone around you. I know this from doing it and experiencing others do it. Being Present allows you to care for yourself in any relationship and still be there for others.
What is the most efficient way to learn to Be Present? This one is easy.
Go ahead, try it.
Why? Movement causes Sensation and we are never more present than in Sensation.
Any Movement that does not cause pain and harm. That defeats the purpose. Technically that can almost be a ‘yes’ answer. Without opening it up to movements such as hitting yourself in the head with a hammer, the idea is that whatever movement you choose can be done without causing pain and harm. Make sense?
We are never more in-the-moment then when we are moving in relationship with everything around us; moving as connected BE-ings. That excludes texting while walking or reading while eating or eating while watching tv. Most of us do it, it just doesn’t count as moving as connected BE-ings. It is moving while we are paying attention to ourselves moving.
It is moving while we are paying attention to ourselves moving.
Encourage and develop our ability to move with increased sensitivity.
Move as a connected part of the space and in relationship with every object, not as a separate body moving through space and around objects.
Rather than moving ourselves as though we are individual objects moving through space, we move as part of the space.
Movement brings us into deeper relationship with our world. It is not the world “around” us, it is the world within us and we are within it.
If you really want to make positive changes in your life, this the secret.
Easier than it may sound, and more difficult than you might think.
It is moving while we are paying attention to ourselves moving. And feeling. And thinking. And creating. And…
Why is Movement, Awareness, BE-ing Present, paying attention, and cultivating a deeply feeling relationship with your body important?
How does it create Balance?
Tomorrow is another day…